MARCH 25, 1994 GAY PEOPLE'S CHRONICLE

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FROM THE HART

Married heterosexual male dares to dream

Advice on love, relationships and other issues relevant to sexual minorities.

Dear Taylor,

by Taylor Hart

I am a heterosexual married male with a wife and three children. My wife and I have a great sex life and I am very attracted to women, but I occasionally fantasize about having sex with a man. Is this abnormal? Does this mean that I might be gay?

Dear Worried,

Worried

You can stop worrying. It is perfectly normal for some heterosexual (straight) men and women to have an occasional homosexual fantasy. An occasional homosexual fantasy does not necessarily mean that you are gay. All that it may indicate is a curious nature about sexuality in general.

Please keep in mind that the terms homosexual, heterosexual and bisexual are simply the labels of human sexuality. These terms do not define us, but they do inform others about the type of sex we desire to have and the gender of the other people we find attractive. By using a label you are openly communicating to others your needs, desires and sexual orientation. Choosing to use a label does not change the type of person that you are. You are you, regardless of your sexual label.

If you still find yourself dwelling on these fantasies, stop worrying about what label you will use and start thinking about whether or not you want to act on them. If you decide to have a homosexual experience, to see what it would be like, you need to consider the consequences: How might it affect your feelings about yourself? How might it affect the people you love if they found out about it? Since you are, by your own description, a heterosexual who is legally and emotionally committed to his wife, you need to consider how your marriage would be affected if your wife found out.

Dear Taylor,

Is oral sex safe without a condom? Hungry for Love

Dear Hungry, No.

Though I know the many reasons that unprotected oral sex is considered unsafe, I thought it might be better to have a professional AIDS organization answer your question. I called the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention National AIDS Hotline and put your question before them. This was their response:

"Essentially, unprotected oral sex (oral sex without the use of a condom, dental guard or some other generally accepted protective barrier) is considered a risk for the transmission of the HIV (AIDS) virus.

"If any sexual fluid or blood enters the mouth while performing oral sex it can have access to the bloodstream through either open cuts or sores in the mouth or by being absorbed through the mucus membrane tissues in the mouth.

"If someone is receiving oral sex the risk is from any blood that may be present in their partner's mouth. Again, the virus can have access to the bloodstream through open cuts or sores on their genitals or the surrounding areas, or by being absorbed through the mucus membrane tissues in their genital area.

"Mucus membrane tissue can allow for the HIV virus to cross it and then be absorbed into the bloodstream.

"Though saliva has never been shown to be a transmitter of the HIV virus, the blood that may be present in the saliva is a definite transmitter of the virus.

"When performing or receiving oral sex, we at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommend using latex condoms or, in the case of performing oral sex on a female, the use of a dental guard or regular household plastic wrap. When a dental guard or plastic wrap is not available we suggest

HOUSE OF ST. JAMES

by Steven St. James

Breakbeat

The Trip, The Erb, Records.

Nightforce

A perfect name for this group and its cut. Regga Muffin style breakbeat mixes, spacey bridges and vocal samples of Bob Marley, gives it a cutting edge. It even comes on green vinyl. You get a feeling this cut is being pumped out full blast from boom boxes in the U.K. Just say pass me the Erb, baby.

House

DJ Culture, The Stress Compilation, Moonshine Music

It's amazing how much the Moonshine label has turned into a major driving force for underground music of all different genres. If you have the right connections, I would recommend the 1,000-pressing limited DJ edition, mainly because of the two cuts "Uncle Bobs Burley House" and "Nasty Rhythm" that you can't get on the CD. The CD version has 16 cuts over mix together by Sasha and Dave Seaman. The most important thing is that all the songs are well worth it.

Techno

Nova Mute: Version 1.1, Various artists, Nova Mute Records

From the producers of Tresor II, Probe

Mission, and GTO's "Love is Everywhere." Berlin label Nova Mute gives us a double CD compilation with full 12-inch mixes. Version 1.1 is heavy on technology for the Ravers, but light on substance.

Trance

Moon Frog EP, Nico, ESP music Artist, producer Nico, also known as Nicolai Varkapich from Holland, has been very busy remixing cuts for ESP. But he still finds time to produce his own wild experimental style of heavenly hardcore trance. Acidic symphonic trance of Nico lies between being buried alive and Christmas.

New underground music magazine

I have recently received some letters at WRUW requesting information about any new music mags coming out. There is a better source than Street Sound which I feel is behind the times. Straight out of Tampa, Fla., The Trip is a wealth of info from music to raves across the country. Write to: Peter Wohelsk, Trip Magazine, 100 E. MLK Blvd., #10, Tampa, FL 33603.

Steven St. James is host of One Brother In the Basement, which brings you the best of underground dance music, featuring trance, tribal, house, and breakbeat. Forget the alternative, go real underground. Wednesday from 9 am to noon on WRUW 91.1 FM in Cleveland.

cutting open a latex condom and using it, carefully, as a barrier."

So there you have it, from the mouths of the experts. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention National AIDS Hotline can be reached, toll free, twenty-four hours a day by calling 800-342-2437. Other AIDS service organization phone numbers can be found in the Resource Directory section of the Chronicle under the heading "AIDS

Services" and "Hotlines."

Dear Taylor,

Are you a lady?

Dear Curious,

Curious

I am a gay male. But if I were a female, I highly doubt that I would be a lady! (Ha-Ha!)

Need help with your love life? Taylor welcomes your questions. Send them to Taylor Hart, care of the Chronicle, P.O. Box 5426, Cleveland, 44101.

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